Parenting Support in Bury St Edmunds
Breastfeeding Support
St Edmundsbaby APUK Support Group
Mondays 11am – 12.30pm
Upstairs in the Apex, 1 Charter Square,
Bury St Edmunds, IP33 3FD
A weekly drop-in support group for parents to meet up. Grab yourself a tea or coffee from the Aspretto Café and come on upstairs to our comfy corner to chat to other mums and dads, speak to breastfeeding and babywearing peer supporters (when available), antenatal teachers and experienced parents, and relax in a friendly and welcoming setting. Dads, big siblings, aunties, uncles, grandparents and friends welcome too! We will be inviting the Sling Library and Cloth Nappy Library to these sessions. This session meets weekly except for Bank Holidays.
Facebook Page
@StEdmundsbabySupport
Facebook Group
@St EdmundsbabySupport
Mondays 11am – 12.30pm
Upstairs in the Apex, 1 Charter Square,
Bury St Edmunds, IP33 3FD
A weekly drop-in support group for parents to meet up. Grab yourself a tea or coffee from the Aspretto Café and come on upstairs to our comfy corner to chat to other mums and dads, speak to breastfeeding and babywearing peer supporters (when available), antenatal teachers and experienced parents, and relax in a friendly and welcoming setting. Dads, big siblings, aunties, uncles, grandparents and friends welcome too! We will be inviting the Sling Library and Cloth Nappy Library to these sessions. This session meets weekly except for Bank Holidays.
Facebook Page
@StEdmundsbabySupport
Facebook Group
@St EdmundsbabySupport
St Edmundsbaby Breastfeeding Support Group
Tuesdays 3pm – 4.30pm (alternate weeks)
The Self Centre, Kempson Way, Bury St Edmunds, IP32 7AR
A friendly drop-in session for breastfeeding parents to meet, chat and let their babies play. Trained breastfeeding supporters will be on hand to answer any questions or concerns, including some expert guidance from a local lactation consultant.
Facebook Page
@StEdmundsbabySupport
Facebook Group
@St EdmundsbabySupport
Tuesdays 3pm – 4.30pm (alternate weeks)
The Self Centre, Kempson Way, Bury St Edmunds, IP32 7AR
A friendly drop-in session for breastfeeding parents to meet, chat and let their babies play. Trained breastfeeding supporters will be on hand to answer any questions or concerns, including some expert guidance from a local lactation consultant.
Facebook Page
@StEdmundsbabySupport
Facebook Group
@St EdmundsbabySupport
Contact Details
La Leche League Helpline: 0345 120 2918 (24hours)
NCT Breastfeeding Helpline: 0300 330 0771 (8.00am - 10.00pm)
Breastfeeding Network Supportline: 0300 100 0210 (9.30am - 9.30pm)
Association of Breastfeeding Mothers: 0300 330 5453 (9.30am - 10.30am)
National Breastfeeding Helpline (NHS): 0300 100 0212
Sarah Oakley Lactation Ltd
Independent Nurse, Health Visitor, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant and Tongue-tie Practitioner. Breastfeeding support groups in Ely (www.facebook.com/elybreastfeeding,
www.elymilks.co.uk) and in Bury St Edmunds.
Free weekly Infant Feeding Assessment Clinic in Milton, Cambridge for all babies and toddlers with feeding issues up to age 2. An osteopath and speech therapist who specialises in feeding are also available in the Milton clinic (www.facebook.com/cambridgeshirebabytoddlerfeeding/)
Private consultations for breastfeeding support and tongue-tie assessment and division are available at The Self Centre.
See www.sarahoakleylactation.co.uk (www.facebook.com/Sarah-Oakley-Lactation) for more information. Contact [email protected], or telephone 07729 629190 to make an appointment. Sarah will very kindly be at the St Edmundsbaby Breastfeeding Support Group sessions on Tuesdays.
Useful Links
www.breastfeedingnetwork.org.uk The Breastfeeding Network
www.laleche.org.uk La Leche League
www.breastfeeding.nhs.uk NHS Breastfeeding
www.abm.me.uk Association of Breastfeeding Mothers
La Leche League Helpline: 0345 120 2918 (24hours)
NCT Breastfeeding Helpline: 0300 330 0771 (8.00am - 10.00pm)
Breastfeeding Network Supportline: 0300 100 0210 (9.30am - 9.30pm)
Association of Breastfeeding Mothers: 0300 330 5453 (9.30am - 10.30am)
National Breastfeeding Helpline (NHS): 0300 100 0212
Sarah Oakley Lactation Ltd
Independent Nurse, Health Visitor, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant and Tongue-tie Practitioner. Breastfeeding support groups in Ely (www.facebook.com/elybreastfeeding,
www.elymilks.co.uk) and in Bury St Edmunds.
Free weekly Infant Feeding Assessment Clinic in Milton, Cambridge for all babies and toddlers with feeding issues up to age 2. An osteopath and speech therapist who specialises in feeding are also available in the Milton clinic (www.facebook.com/cambridgeshirebabytoddlerfeeding/)
Private consultations for breastfeeding support and tongue-tie assessment and division are available at The Self Centre.
See www.sarahoakleylactation.co.uk (www.facebook.com/Sarah-Oakley-Lactation) for more information. Contact [email protected], or telephone 07729 629190 to make an appointment. Sarah will very kindly be at the St Edmundsbaby Breastfeeding Support Group sessions on Tuesdays.
Useful Links
www.breastfeedingnetwork.org.uk The Breastfeeding Network
www.laleche.org.uk La Leche League
www.breastfeeding.nhs.uk NHS Breastfeeding
www.abm.me.uk Association of Breastfeeding Mothers
I went along to two different breastfeeding workshops when I was pregnant to try to prepare myself for what it would be like. Unfortunately, neither of these really left me with the knowledge I would have found useful, and I found the first couple of weeks really tough. I was lucky, in that I had a very supportive husband, parents close by, and a couple of fantastic midwives, who got me through those first few weeks. Thanks to them, I fed Amelia for three and a half years, and I am so grateful I persevered. In hindsight though, I thoroughly regret not seeking out some support early on. There is a lot of conflicting advice flying around, and every woman is different, so our experiences are all different. My aim here is to try to discover what is available in this area, and to provide you with contact details for as many resources as possible to make your breastfeeding journey as smooth as possible.
Of all the things I have learned along the way, the most important to share is to trust your own body and your instincts. Our breastmilk is an incredible and versatile thing, not just nutritionally, but for soothing through illness, or a bump, or just for comfort. There have been many days (and nights) where it felt like she would never be satisfied and had been latched on all day, and others where she was hardly interested. Try to relax about it and go with your instincts. The other thing I wish I had known, is that it is not easy for everyone. It can be hard work to get a good relationship going with your baby! It is a team effort after all! Through the rough times, the knowledge that I was benefitting my baby and myself in so many ways, and knowing we were not alone in our experiences made it much easier.
Most of the above support groups and helplines are not exclusively for breastfeeding mothers. They can help you with other feeding questions and anxieties too. In every case, they are always happy to listen, so give them a call if you are worrying, and definitely try to find a group for support. Nothing beats talking to other mums who are breastfeeding. St Edmundsbaby is extremely proud to have set up our own local support network, including a facebook group for mums to ask questions to trained breastfeeding peer supporters and counsellors, a social group for parents to meet in a relaxed atmosphere and chat, and a regular support session with a trained lactation consultant and tongue tie specialist. If you are interested in volunteering, or would like to find out more, please visit the facebook page at @StEdmundsbabySupport
Of all the things I have learned along the way, the most important to share is to trust your own body and your instincts. Our breastmilk is an incredible and versatile thing, not just nutritionally, but for soothing through illness, or a bump, or just for comfort. There have been many days (and nights) where it felt like she would never be satisfied and had been latched on all day, and others where she was hardly interested. Try to relax about it and go with your instincts. The other thing I wish I had known, is that it is not easy for everyone. It can be hard work to get a good relationship going with your baby! It is a team effort after all! Through the rough times, the knowledge that I was benefitting my baby and myself in so many ways, and knowing we were not alone in our experiences made it much easier.
Most of the above support groups and helplines are not exclusively for breastfeeding mothers. They can help you with other feeding questions and anxieties too. In every case, they are always happy to listen, so give them a call if you are worrying, and definitely try to find a group for support. Nothing beats talking to other mums who are breastfeeding. St Edmundsbaby is extremely proud to have set up our own local support network, including a facebook group for mums to ask questions to trained breastfeeding peer supporters and counsellors, a social group for parents to meet in a relaxed atmosphere and chat, and a regular support session with a trained lactation consultant and tongue tie specialist. If you are interested in volunteering, or would like to find out more, please visit the facebook page at @StEdmundsbabySupport
Frequently Asked Questions
(The Association of Breastfeeding Mothers)
Is breastfeeding good for my baby?
Breastfeeding not only provides food in the most natural form for babies, but also provides comfort, pain relief and the natural nurturing that babies need for development. Breast milk contains everything that a baby needs for growth in the first six months of life in exactly the right amounts and in the best form for his body to use. Breast milk satisfies a baby's hunger and thirst.
No other foods or drinks are necessary, provided a baby is allowed to feed at the breast whenever he wishes.
Breast milk increases a baby's resistance to many infections and diseases, and reduces his risk of developing allergies, diabetes and childhood cancers. Breast milk is free, fast and convenient. It is always available, and is fresh, clean and served at the right temperature. There’s no sterilising to worry about, no mixing, heating, refrigerating, and no bottles to take out and about. Babies can be breastfed discreetly anywhere.
Is breastfeeding good for me?
Breastfeeding reduces the risk of breast and ovarian cancers and helps your uterus to return to its pre-pregnancy size, so you regain your figure more quickly. Breastfeeding also uses up excess fat stores from pregnancy. Breastfeeding gives you a chance to sit down and relax during a busy day, and so helps you cope with the demands of motherhood. It gives you confidence as you know you are giving your baby the best possible start in life. It can be a rewarding and satisfying experience for you and your baby.
How soon can I breastfeed my baby?
You can usually start breastfeeding immediately after birth. A baby's suckling instinct is strongest in the first hour after birth, so putting your baby to the breast as soon as possible will get you off to a good start.
How do I put my baby to the breast?
Make yourself comfortable. (For night-time feeding or if you have stitches, lying on your side may be the best option for you.) Your baby should be held close to your body, facing your breast with his head, shoulders and body in a straight line, and your hand supporting his neck so he can move his head to latch on. He should be able to reach the breast easily without having to stretch or twist. You can also breastfeed leaning back at about 45 degrees, supported by cushions.
Hold your baby with his nose opposite your nipple, allowing his head to be able to flex. Brush your nipple against his lips or nose to encourage him to open his mouth and reach for your breast. Wait for the 'gape' (his mouth opening like a yawn). Bring him to the breast with his chin touching the breast first, then his bottom lip and tongue near the outer edge of the areola, and bringing his top lip to latch over the nipple as far as possible on to the other side of the areola. Make sure he takes a good mouthful of the areola (the dark area surrounding the nipple) and not just the nipple itself. He should have more areola in his mouth on the side of his bottom lip than his top lip.
Babies breastfeed — they don’t nipple feed. Allowing your baby to suck on just the nipples will make them extremely sore, and can lead to cracking and bleeding. Remember to always bring your baby to your breast rather than trying to move your breast to your baby.
Tummy to Mummy, Nose to Nipple, and Baby to Breast.
How can I avoid sore nipples?
Some nipple tenderness is common during the first few days due to hormonal changes in your body, but this will soon pass. If it is painful when you first put your baby to the breast, gently insert your clean little finger between your baby's mouth and your breast to break the suction, and try again. If the discomfort persists, seek help from a breastfeeding counsellor or midwife to check your baby is correctly positioned at your breast. Breast milk is a natural antiseptic — if your nipples are sore, express a little milk after a feed and allow the milk to dry on the nipple. It will help them heal. When your baby is correctly positioned and feeding well, breastfeeding shouldn’t be at all painful — if it is, some adjustments will be required. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. A plentiful milk supply is also dependent on correct positioning, so this is an important thing to get right.
How long should I feed my baby for?
Always let your baby determine the length of the feed. Your baby knows when he has had enough, and will take himself off the breast. If you take him from the breast before he is ready, he may not have received as much of your milk as he needs, and he may not gain weight and thrive as he should. Taking your baby off the breast too soon may also reduce the amount of milk you produce.
How often should I feed my baby?
Breastfed babies need to feed frequently. Young babies will generally need at least 8 feeds and may have as many as 12 or more feeds in 24 hours. Your baby may also 'cluster' feed, having a few of his breastfeeds close together then the rest spaced out a little more — this is normal. The important thing to remember is that the more often a baby suckles at the breast, the more milk is produced.
At times during the early weeks your baby may appear to be more hungry than usual - he will be "asking" to build up your supply in preparation for a spurt of growing and developing. Occasionally a very placid baby, who regularly sleeps for long stretches, may need to be woken to be fed. Don’t be tempted to make comparisons between how often your baby feeds and a bottle-fed baby's patterns. Breastfed babies have a totally different pattern of feeding.
How can I increase my milk supply?
If you feel that your supply is low, encourage your baby to feed more often. Put your own and your baby's needs first. Babies do have 'growth spurts' and at these times they will need to feed more often to stimulate milk production. Good positioning at the breast is also important for a good milk supply.
Can I have too much milk?
Colostrum (the 'first' milk) begins to change to mature milk during the first week, and this is often referred to as the milk 'coming in'. Your breasts will be swollen with extra fluids and, initially, you may be making more milk than your baby takes. At this time your breasts may become hard, lumpy and painful. Frequent feeding helps to avoid this, and expressing a little milk before putting the baby to the breast can also help. A warm bath, or warm flannel held to the breast will help the milk to flow easily and make expressing easier.
Will breastfeeding spoil my figure?
No, it's pregnancy and birth that affect your figure, along with your lifestyle and eating habits. You may find your breasts change in appearance slightly after giving birth whether or not you breastfeed, but breastfeeding may actually help them to remain firmer than they otherwise would. A well-fitting nursing bra will support your breasts, and keep you comfortable during the day. A bra that is too tight can lead to blocked milk ducts and mastitis.
Do I have to eat a special diet?
No, eating a normal, balanced diet will provide your body with all the nutrients necessary to make plenty of milk for your baby's needs without depleting your own stores of nutrients or energy. Occasionally a baby may take exception to something you have eaten or drunk, but this is unusual. Moderation in all foods is normally all that is required. Drink when you feel thirsty.
How do I know if my baby is getting enough milk?
If your newborn baby is feeding whenever he asks to, is gaining weight steadily, has plenty of pale, wet nappies (provided no other fluids are given), has several poos a day (in the first six weeks) and seems contented, then relax — he's getting enough. He will enjoy the cuddling and the close contact with you, so don’t be afraid of "spoiling" him by breastfeeding frequently.
What about night feeds?
Almost every baby wakes at night needing to be fed. A baby's tummy cannot hold huge amounts of milk and, as breast milk is very easily digested, your baby will ask to breastfeed often. Night feeds help to boost your milk supply and prevent engorged breasts. Night feeds may continue for some time: there is no set age at which a breastfed baby will give up wanting to feed at night. Each baby is an individual with individual needs.
What if I need more help?
The ABM has volunteer breastfeeding counsellors who give free information and support by phone, in person or via email. For regular breastfeeding information, support and our magazine, join the ABM.
Association of Breastfeeding Mothers
Helpline 0300 330 5453
Admin and enquiries: 08444 122948
Email: [email protected]
ABM, PO Box 207, Bridgwater TA6 7YT
(The Association of Breastfeeding Mothers)
Is breastfeeding good for my baby?
Breastfeeding not only provides food in the most natural form for babies, but also provides comfort, pain relief and the natural nurturing that babies need for development. Breast milk contains everything that a baby needs for growth in the first six months of life in exactly the right amounts and in the best form for his body to use. Breast milk satisfies a baby's hunger and thirst.
No other foods or drinks are necessary, provided a baby is allowed to feed at the breast whenever he wishes.
Breast milk increases a baby's resistance to many infections and diseases, and reduces his risk of developing allergies, diabetes and childhood cancers. Breast milk is free, fast and convenient. It is always available, and is fresh, clean and served at the right temperature. There’s no sterilising to worry about, no mixing, heating, refrigerating, and no bottles to take out and about. Babies can be breastfed discreetly anywhere.
Is breastfeeding good for me?
Breastfeeding reduces the risk of breast and ovarian cancers and helps your uterus to return to its pre-pregnancy size, so you regain your figure more quickly. Breastfeeding also uses up excess fat stores from pregnancy. Breastfeeding gives you a chance to sit down and relax during a busy day, and so helps you cope with the demands of motherhood. It gives you confidence as you know you are giving your baby the best possible start in life. It can be a rewarding and satisfying experience for you and your baby.
How soon can I breastfeed my baby?
You can usually start breastfeeding immediately after birth. A baby's suckling instinct is strongest in the first hour after birth, so putting your baby to the breast as soon as possible will get you off to a good start.
How do I put my baby to the breast?
Make yourself comfortable. (For night-time feeding or if you have stitches, lying on your side may be the best option for you.) Your baby should be held close to your body, facing your breast with his head, shoulders and body in a straight line, and your hand supporting his neck so he can move his head to latch on. He should be able to reach the breast easily without having to stretch or twist. You can also breastfeed leaning back at about 45 degrees, supported by cushions.
Hold your baby with his nose opposite your nipple, allowing his head to be able to flex. Brush your nipple against his lips or nose to encourage him to open his mouth and reach for your breast. Wait for the 'gape' (his mouth opening like a yawn). Bring him to the breast with his chin touching the breast first, then his bottom lip and tongue near the outer edge of the areola, and bringing his top lip to latch over the nipple as far as possible on to the other side of the areola. Make sure he takes a good mouthful of the areola (the dark area surrounding the nipple) and not just the nipple itself. He should have more areola in his mouth on the side of his bottom lip than his top lip.
Babies breastfeed — they don’t nipple feed. Allowing your baby to suck on just the nipples will make them extremely sore, and can lead to cracking and bleeding. Remember to always bring your baby to your breast rather than trying to move your breast to your baby.
Tummy to Mummy, Nose to Nipple, and Baby to Breast.
How can I avoid sore nipples?
Some nipple tenderness is common during the first few days due to hormonal changes in your body, but this will soon pass. If it is painful when you first put your baby to the breast, gently insert your clean little finger between your baby's mouth and your breast to break the suction, and try again. If the discomfort persists, seek help from a breastfeeding counsellor or midwife to check your baby is correctly positioned at your breast. Breast milk is a natural antiseptic — if your nipples are sore, express a little milk after a feed and allow the milk to dry on the nipple. It will help them heal. When your baby is correctly positioned and feeding well, breastfeeding shouldn’t be at all painful — if it is, some adjustments will be required. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. A plentiful milk supply is also dependent on correct positioning, so this is an important thing to get right.
How long should I feed my baby for?
Always let your baby determine the length of the feed. Your baby knows when he has had enough, and will take himself off the breast. If you take him from the breast before he is ready, he may not have received as much of your milk as he needs, and he may not gain weight and thrive as he should. Taking your baby off the breast too soon may also reduce the amount of milk you produce.
How often should I feed my baby?
Breastfed babies need to feed frequently. Young babies will generally need at least 8 feeds and may have as many as 12 or more feeds in 24 hours. Your baby may also 'cluster' feed, having a few of his breastfeeds close together then the rest spaced out a little more — this is normal. The important thing to remember is that the more often a baby suckles at the breast, the more milk is produced.
At times during the early weeks your baby may appear to be more hungry than usual - he will be "asking" to build up your supply in preparation for a spurt of growing and developing. Occasionally a very placid baby, who regularly sleeps for long stretches, may need to be woken to be fed. Don’t be tempted to make comparisons between how often your baby feeds and a bottle-fed baby's patterns. Breastfed babies have a totally different pattern of feeding.
How can I increase my milk supply?
If you feel that your supply is low, encourage your baby to feed more often. Put your own and your baby's needs first. Babies do have 'growth spurts' and at these times they will need to feed more often to stimulate milk production. Good positioning at the breast is also important for a good milk supply.
Can I have too much milk?
Colostrum (the 'first' milk) begins to change to mature milk during the first week, and this is often referred to as the milk 'coming in'. Your breasts will be swollen with extra fluids and, initially, you may be making more milk than your baby takes. At this time your breasts may become hard, lumpy and painful. Frequent feeding helps to avoid this, and expressing a little milk before putting the baby to the breast can also help. A warm bath, or warm flannel held to the breast will help the milk to flow easily and make expressing easier.
Will breastfeeding spoil my figure?
No, it's pregnancy and birth that affect your figure, along with your lifestyle and eating habits. You may find your breasts change in appearance slightly after giving birth whether or not you breastfeed, but breastfeeding may actually help them to remain firmer than they otherwise would. A well-fitting nursing bra will support your breasts, and keep you comfortable during the day. A bra that is too tight can lead to blocked milk ducts and mastitis.
Do I have to eat a special diet?
No, eating a normal, balanced diet will provide your body with all the nutrients necessary to make plenty of milk for your baby's needs without depleting your own stores of nutrients or energy. Occasionally a baby may take exception to something you have eaten or drunk, but this is unusual. Moderation in all foods is normally all that is required. Drink when you feel thirsty.
How do I know if my baby is getting enough milk?
If your newborn baby is feeding whenever he asks to, is gaining weight steadily, has plenty of pale, wet nappies (provided no other fluids are given), has several poos a day (in the first six weeks) and seems contented, then relax — he's getting enough. He will enjoy the cuddling and the close contact with you, so don’t be afraid of "spoiling" him by breastfeeding frequently.
What about night feeds?
Almost every baby wakes at night needing to be fed. A baby's tummy cannot hold huge amounts of milk and, as breast milk is very easily digested, your baby will ask to breastfeed often. Night feeds help to boost your milk supply and prevent engorged breasts. Night feeds may continue for some time: there is no set age at which a breastfed baby will give up wanting to feed at night. Each baby is an individual with individual needs.
What if I need more help?
The ABM has volunteer breastfeeding counsellors who give free information and support by phone, in person or via email. For regular breastfeeding information, support and our magazine, join the ABM.
Association of Breastfeeding Mothers
Helpline 0300 330 5453
Admin and enquiries: 08444 122948
Email: [email protected]
ABM, PO Box 207, Bridgwater TA6 7YT